Maybe this would be a better example.

Perhaps a better example of the differences between my parent's culture would be in the conversations that go on with the families themselves.


For example, this weekend, when I was at home, and come to think about it, every time I've seen her from my teenage life and on, she's always openly spoken about sex and sexual relations. In fact, it seems like much of my mom's family is open about sex and drugs, to say the least. And, my uncle encourages me to have "sex" buddies, while the other uncle just assumes I have them, and I have no clue what the third uncle thinks. It was, a topic of concern this trip that no one know whether I am or am not a virgin. Like it's any of their business right? Well, it became a huge cause of concern, so much so that my mother took it upon herself to ask me about it while we were at dinner one night. Of course, I gave no direct answer to the question and instead gently hinted at the fact that my status is no one's business. Sigh. . . I really don't care that they ask, but it was kinda weird getting a "talk" from my mom when I'm almost thirty. And it was sort of an eye-opener to realize that it was truly a concern from my mother's side of the family.



My father's side of the family, is a lot more conservative. I don't think I could ever have an open talk about sex with my grandfather. And I highly doubt that either of my uncle's would encourage me to have several sex partners, or to do drugs, or anything wild for that matter.



My father, in fact had difficult time when I started dating, and assumed that the guys I was only friends with were guys I was dating. Let me tell you how uncomfortable I was when he'd introduce my friends to his friends as my boyfriends. Oh. . . my life.